always trust your man

Most men measure themselves by their competence, their efficiency, their successes and achievements. To be honest, these are qualities that I too highly appreciate. I look up to a man if I can trust him that he could do / make what I dream about (whether he ever actually finishes it or just makes promises is much less important).

When it comes to solving practical problems (be it mere physical work or something that needs technical expertise) I know I have a difficulty trusting anyone else other than myself. (However, I can trust myself if and only if no-one else is around looking at me, otherwise I won't even try for fear of failure and the accompanying shame).

What practically adds to my trust for the time being, what makes a difference for me is experience, it's practice, it's routine. Nothing personal. What makes a man easy to be trusted are the years of practice behind him. No man is born accomplished and skilled, these depend on his past. And in his past, a good man  has always done what he was expected to do.

What actually needs to be appreciated - for it does depend on his personality - is his perseverance, his will to solve problems, to overcome difficulties, to help those in need and to care for whom he loves (his woman, children and friends).

These are the qualities that a woman's trust should really depend on. She should never express her distrust based on lack of experience. Not being trusted for a man is equal to rejection and immediately demotivates him. If she loves her man, her role is to pave the way for his achievements by setting challenges while trusting in his capacity to address them. By keeping asking him to do this and that she should help him to gain that experience and offer him opportunities for success. And a good man always does what he has to do and always learns what he needs to know in order to do it. There are no limitations for him except his will power depending on his motivation i.e. his woman's trust.